A couple weeks ago I hit my One Year, New York Anniversary. How has an entire year gone by already? I feel like just yesterday I was trying to make everything I owned fit into a car so I could drive from Colorado to Kansas and then repack again into only 2 large bags and a box. Whew. A year ago I still had so much uncertainty like wondering if I would I find a place to live, meet new people and the biggest question of them all…if I would even like New York?! The simple answer to all of these is “yes”. I have made friends, I love my apartment so much to stay in it another year and I do appreciate NYC more than ever. Being thrown into a busy city like this, I knew I would learn some lifelong lessons..and man was I right. NYC can be tough but I’m a true believer that there is so much positivity that comes from these tough situations. Here’s what I’ve learned..
IT’S EASY TO GET LONLEY
You may think I’m crazy because there are more people here than any other city in the United States. But that’s the issue. It can become a comparison game in New York and if you let it get to you, the consequences are loneliness. I can be heading home from work on a Friday night after a long week with the urge to crawl into bed with some Netflix and wine. I’ll then see a group of friends heading out to dinner or others at happy hour and begin to feel like I should also be doing the same. I’ve been better at telling myself that it’s not a lonely feeling and that everyone has different plans for a night but sometimes it’s difficult. The age of social media is also no help. When you’re living here you just have to remind yourself that no one can do it all and everyone has different versions of living in the city. Everyone is different!
YOUR SHOE PURCHASE WILL DRASTICALLY CHANGE
The words running through my head when I purchase shoes are now, “How many steps can these take in a day until my feet hurt?” This thought might not be running through everyones mind but I walk a lot. Sometimes I’ll plan my entire day around how long it will take me to walk somewhere and walk home. That being said, comfortable & durable shoes are a must for me. What used to be more like a statement piece has turned into an investment piece for me. I will spend a little extra money on that pair of shoes because I know they have longevity.
NEW YORK DOESN’T HAVE TO BE EXPENSIVE.
Yes, rent is expensive but it doesn’t have to be an arm and a leg (just an arm). There are affordable places to live in the city if you spend time and look for them. There are also so many options for pre-furnished apartments if you want to move in with no hassle. Trust me, they’re out there. Also food. If you think every meal is at least $30 a plate and drinks will run you $17 for a cocktail, you haven’t looked hard enough. There are so many affordable places to eat in the city that are still great spots. For instance, my go-to spots for friends visitng that are on a budget are Tartine in the West Village and Tim Ho Wan in the East Village. Tartine is this adorable french spot on the quietest street that is also BYOB (bring your own beer, or wine for that matter). The food is amazing and bringing your own bottle of wine really cuts down on costs. Tim Ho Wan was rated the cheapest Michelin restaurant, and they’re not kidding. I’ve walked away completely stuffed and only paid around $10 a person. AND the dim sum is some of the best I’ve ever had. Get the pork buns, you’ll thank me later.
YOU HAVE TO WANT TO BE HERE
It’s no lie that NYC isn’t easy. With more frequent trips to the grocery store, dirty subways, expensive entertainment, this place is most certainly not for everyone. Which leads me to my next point…
THE PAY OFF IS INCREDIBLE
There is a reason why this city has the most sought after jobs and the worlds best talent. This city FEEDS off the energy and the opportunities are endless. There is always something to do, somewhere to go, and more people to meet. Days when I spend 10+ hours at the office and come home to write a blog post are tough but I’ve come accustom to the feeling of giving nothing but your best. You’re constantly surrounded by people doing the same and that’s what I love. The energy in this city is unlike anywhere else and everyone is trying to make it at their job (& their side gig). Yes, it’s exhausting and sometimes I want to curl up into a ball and not face the people on the street. BUT since moving here I’ve felt more empowered in my career and seen my blog take off more than I imagined.
This city is definitely not for everyone but it certainly is for me. It’s been one heck of a year and I cannot wait to see what else is to come!
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