Disclaimer to the post title, I don’t know everything. Heck, I don’t even know a lot. But in my few short years of moving from school to working full-time to moving across the country, here’s what I’ve learned…
Since I’ve graduated college, and more so in this past year, I’ve spent a lot of time thinking about the people I surround myself with. It’s so different when we leave college because we’re not automatically in the same place as our peers. For the first time in our adult lives we have to make an effort to examine what we want and how can we achieve it. Some of my best friends in college and I would have a few of the same classes. It was like an automatic coffee date twice a week where we could catch up on the way to class, chat during breaks and maybe grab a bite to eat or study after class was dismissed. We were friends with similar interests in clubs and we hung out with similar people. Not a lot of effort has to go into making friends in college.
Jump forward a few years and a lot has changed. My once friends have moved across the country, they’ve begun to develop other friend groups in their own respective cities and we’re stuck scrambling to find “our people” again. We no longer has different clubs organized by our schools with enticing offers to join like free pizza or a resume boost to pull us towards each other. We’re left on our own keep our relationships and build new ones.
Moving to a new city is hard for everyone. If you see people on social media and think “wow, they just moved to a new city and it looks like they have so many friends!”, don’t get down on yourself. There is a 95% chance they are using social media to cover up the fact that they’re struggling or hey, maybe they do automatically have friends and that’s awesome! Everyone’s path is different. It’s difficult not to compare ourselves but we do. If you’re struggling finding your niche in your own city or relating to others your age after graduating, keep reading.
Like I said earlier, I don’t know everything. Sometimes we just need ideas to put ourselves out there again so I made a list! Try a few and see who you meet 🙂
-Reconnect with old friends
-Volunteer in your community
-Take classes that motivates your interests
-Hang out with co-workers (friends of friends are never a bad thing)
-Never say no! You never know what opportunity is waiting or who you’ll meet. Show up, say hi, and be open to meeting new people.
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